There are so many contradictions within our lives that must be sorted out. So many contradictions that sometimes it’s hard to figure out where to start. Questions are abound, and our mind races rapidly to find an answer, a solution to one of our problems. Not just any problem, but one that affects us deeply, affects us mentally, and physically at the same time.

I’ve gotten a chance to talk to many people about their twin flame journey, and I’ve heard some quite painful stories. The worst part is that many of these stories do not have any sort of happy ending in sight. In fact, some people seem at a loss, hopeless, and broken down when dealing with their twin flame runner.

And what can be possibly worst than that?

That is that when they seek answers to their problem - often times they are taken in the wrong direction. Many people mean well, even professionals, but often times what ends up happening is that others stack even further pain instead of healing the pain that is already there. This often occurs when those seeking to help want to know more about your past, what you did, and what might have gone wrong.

Trying to find an amicable connection with your twin flame doesn’t work that way. What has been done has been done. Trying to dig into the past to find a solution, re-live it, and imagine you taking different actions… it might be pleasant or feel good, but it does not really give you a true solution to your current state.

Whether it is your twin flame turning into a twin flame runner, your twin no longer talking to you, betrayal by your twin, or any other issue that might have occurred… it’s gone in the memory of time. It might still be there in your mind’s eye, but you truly have to ask yourself…

Is it helpful for me to keep playing those scenes in my mind over and over again?

Is it productive and does it help me heal to keep reliving past moments?

Humans have the tendency to keep replaying the same scenes, (or spinning the same record, if you will) in their head. And yes, it’s even worse when you try to seek help among others and they suggest you revisit the past in order to fix it. Again, it my opinion, this is not the way to go. What many people don’t realize is that the pain they are currently feeling is not only because of what happened with their twin flame, that scene that took place a long time ago, but just as importantly - of all the mounted stress they are giving themselves by continuing to replay these scenes in their head, over and over again.

It is not just your twin flame who has giving you this deep pain you feel - but yourself as well, you have given yourself so much grief that it can feel insurmountable at times. I know, sometimes you just have to “feel” those things. Perhaps we don’t want to let go of those deep dark stark negative feelings. And we might tell ourselves that we are just being “real” with what is going on, our feelings, and that we just have to let those painful feelings exist. But do we really?

Or can you find a way to dig yourself to a better state of being?

This reminds me of getting sick, getting something like the flu, or anything else that drains your mind and body… often times what happens is that we panic, or we begin thinking negative thoughts, and therefore we get sick even further and do not allow a natural process of healing to take place. We in essence are blocking that healing and allowing ourselves to blossom as we should be.

You deserve to give yourself the opportunity to blossom. You deserve to give your mind and body the chance to move forward and be productive, creative, and live a life filled with healing light, a light that brings many wonderful opportunities, and the right road that has been there for you to continue on.

What needs to happen in order for you to get back on your true twin flame journey?

It all starts with spiritual focus. Develop your energy to focus spiritually on what is to come. This means not focusing or dwelling on the past… and sometimes it means not focusing or dwelling even on the present. Focus on what you are working towards, on your energy, and how you can heal with your own energy.

Twin flame ascension and healing will happen, but it does not start externally, and it does not start in your past. Ascension begins within you, within your energy, and within yourself. Ascension and healing go hand in hand. When you allow yourself to heal - you are creating room to ascend. And when you are ascending - you are healing as well.

My overall point here is that you yourself can make yourself feel sick… but you also have the power within to heal. We heal by moving forward and ascending. We do not healing by dwelling in current negativity or past negativity. Our inner energy is powerful and I do believe that the world that we create within ourselves matters a whole lot more than the physical world.

The love, care, and respect you give yourself matters much more than any interactions in the external world. To truly blossom and connect with your twin flame you must develop the right energy… because your true twin flame exists within you.